How to Improve your Reputation Right Now

Years ago I read a quote that I never forgot. It was by Dale Carnegie in one of his books, “remember the 3 C’s, do not criticize, condemn or complain.” The context of the quote was regarding relationships between friends, family, or coworkers. If you want a respected reputation and develop good relationships, do not do criticize, condemn or complain. These attitudes are reputation killer.

In this topical study we will examine the Word of God to learn what He says about we can improve our reputations.

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Reputation Killer #1: Criticism

Kinda stings a bit, eh? I think most of us are guilty of criticism. Let’s examine this word, ‘criticize’ in light of the Word of God.

Turn with me to Romans 14:1-4, 1-3 and examine the context of this passage. Paul is teaching of the principle of conscience in believers between the mature believer and the believer weaker in faith. The mature believer with the strong faith will eat everything while the believer with a weaker faith will be reluctant to eat what he considers unacceptable.

The mature believer should not criticize or pass judgment on the new believer. In verse 10 there is a question to each of the believers, to the one with the weaker faith, Paul says “Why do you judge your brother?” and to the more mature believer, Paul asks him, “Why do you despise your brother?” Paul answers his own questions by telling them that all believers, both weak and strong in faith, will stand before the judgment seat of Christ.

Turn over to verses 12 and 13 of this same chapter. Paul encourages the believers not to criticize each other but instead determine not to put a stumbling block in each other’s way as we each will have to give an account to God.

While we don’t live under the Mosaic Law today, if we examined our hearts, we just might find that we have a tiny bit of a self-righteous attitude as we criticize others for not living like us. Let’s check our motives to see if they are pure or evil.

The Apostle Peter wrote in 1 Peter 4:4-5 that the Gentiles who choose to live according to the flesh will abuse you with criticisms, however, they will give an account to Him who is able to judge the quick and the dead.

The take away from this verse, is we’re bound to have others criticize us but that’s between them and God. As for ourselves, criticism is a reputation killer that needs to be banished!


Reputation Killer #2: Condemnation

Strong’s Complete Dictionary of Bible Words defines ‘condemn’ as declare wrong, to judge, to condemn, to judge against, condemn or punish.

Who do we know in Scriptures who seemed to be punished?

Let’s examine Job for a bit. There are four verses to look at, Job 9:20, 10:2 and 15:6. In 9:20, Job says “my own mouth condemns me when I say I am perfect” and again in 10:2 when he says “I will say to God, do not condemn me but tell me what charges you have against me“.

In Job 15:6, Job’s friend said to him “Your own mouth condemns you, not I, but you.

Then in Job 32:3, the three friends stopped talking to Job and once you read the whole context, you’ll see that the fourth friend, Elihu, had much to say when the three men condemned or judged Job.

Much discussion had occurred in the previous chapters and Job was keeping silent as he considered himself right with God. The condemnation at this point is a result of their opinion against one another. Agh! Why are we so hard on each other?

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Another verse regarding “condemned” is in Matthew 12:7, Jesus had been speaking to the crowds and is now with the disciples walking through a corn field and since they were hungry, they plucked some ears of corn to eat. This isn’t wrong but it was done on the Sabbath and some Pharisees saw them and took them to task over it.

At this point, Jesus taught them about the Sabbath and reminded them of the time when David entered the temple to eat the consecrated bread that was intended only for the priests. He also reminded them that the priests worked on the Sabbath as they prepared the animals for sacrifice which was not counted as a transgression.

Jesus ended this teaching moment with a quote from Hosea 6:6 But if ye had known what this meaneth, I will have mercy, and not sacrifice, ye would not have condemned the guiltless.

Let’s always remember that we are children of the Most High God and He sees the heart and knows our thoughts. Judging or condemning each other is not our purpose. Our purpose is to edify and build each other up, not tear each other apart. Condemnation is a reputation killer!


Reputation Killer #3: Complainer

Oh, this one hits home, doesn’t it? Collins Dictionary defines it as “express resentment or displeasure.” Compare that with Strong’s Complete Dictionary of Bible words which defines it as “to weep, moan, to hold a controversy, to defend, to ponder, muse aloud.”

Here’s some background info for Acts 25:7 that the Jewish priests made complaints against Paul to the new governor, Festus. Paul had been in prison under Felix’s rule and now with the new governor, the treatment he received from Felix continued under Festus. The priests, however, wanted Paul tried in Jerusalem but Festus refused and instead kept Paul in Caesarea.

Paul defended himself before Festus and the priests. As with all those who are on trial, Paul declared himself “Not Guilty” and then proceeded to state his reasons. This was not a case that Festus would give a verdict on but he redirected the case to the emperor for a ruling. This situation was because the priests hated Paul so much that they brought complaints against him. Let this not be the case with us. May our reputation be free from complaints.

Another definition in the Bible for ‘complain’ is the word ‘murmur or murmuring.’

I call it whine.

Jude 1:16 says These are murmurers, complainers, walking after their own lusts; and their mouth speaketh great swelling words, having men’s persons in admiration because of advantage.

Jude writes about the dangers of ungodly men who are the enemies of the gospel. These men promote their own selfish ambitions for their own gain. They crept into the church unawares and have caused discord with their whining and complaining. Their purpose was to overturn the church.


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I guess the most famous murmuring we can think of in the Old Testament is when the Israelites continually whined and complained to Moses. They complained because they had no water to drink, they had nothing good to eat, just manna, day in and day out.

Then they complained when they had the gourmet pheasant dinner because there was no variety to it, they constantly complained.

A caution for us, I suppose, in that we shouldn’t complain.

When you think about this part of history, these people are remembered for what? Complaining.

Is that we want to be known for? We may not want to overthrow the church, as mentioned in Jude, but our complaints could cause division within the church.

Let’s be very careful what we say. Our words can set a forest on fire. Oh, be careful little tongue, what we say!

And the best for last, Paul teaches us in Philippians 2:14 to do all things without murmuring or complaining.  That’s an easy one to remember, do ALL things, and what does ALL mean? Everything! Everything we do, do it without murmuring or complaining. Easier said than done, right?

James says that the tongue is an unruly evil, for with it we bless God and we curse our brethren who are created in the image of God. Let’s think twice before we open our mouths to hurt others with our words. Once words are spoken they can never be taken back. We need to think first and carefully weigh our words before speaking.

Whining and complaining is definitely a reputation killer. No one wants to be known for whining.


Truths to Remember

The take away from this study  on how to improve your reputation is:

  • God is the Judge
  • We all will stand before Him
  • Criticism stands in the way of growing the other person’s faith
  • Criticism is a stumbling block that others will trip over
  • Criticism endangers the other person’s faith
  • We must not condemn others OR ourselves with our speech
    • Speak words of life not death
    • Build up others, not tear down
  • Instead of condemnation, extend mercy to others
  • Complaints against other people are vindictive and cause problems for them
  • We must not put others in the position of defending themselves
  • While whining will get us immediate results, they will not be the best of what God intends for us
  • Whining, murmuring and complaining is not a good reputation to be known for
  • God sees our hearts and knows our thoughts
    • Nothing is hid from God
    • Be honest with ourselves
  • Paul said to do ALL things without complaining.
  • It is safe to include with Paul’s teaching, do not criticize, condemn or complain


That’s a Wrap

Now, dear sisters. Can you remember a time when someone criticized you or judged you unfairly or complained about you to someone else? How did you respond to that? Is it something you can share about in a comment, below?

Has this teaching been helpful? Is God speaking to you through this message? If so, would you like to share what He is teaching you? Please leave a comment, I’d love to hear from you!

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