2 Biblical Steps to Return to Your First Love

Let’s think back to the time when you first saw the one who made your heart jump. Remember how it felt when you went on a date and you couldn’t stop looking at him? How about when he proposed to you, how ecstatic you were? He was your everything!


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Do you remember when you first noticed that your heart no longer jumped when you looked at him from across the room? Do you recall the time when you scowled at him or argued with him? What happened to the warm fuzzy feelings? Where did they go?

Have you wandered so far away that you wonder if you’ll make it back? Do you need to return to your first love?


Your First Love

The first love that I want to talk about today is your love for your Saviour. It is more than the fictitious example above. It is a true story of being so in love with Jesus when you initially experienced salvation that you told everyone about Him. You were happy all the time, attended Sunday services, bible study and everything else that was going on in church.

In this period, you learned the Word, soaking everything in. Soon the milk of the Word became the meat of the Word. Your faith was strong. You were walking in tune with the Lord. Until one day, you missed your prayer time. Then awhile later, you missed the study group you so faithfully attended. You found that you were no longer listening to the Christian radio station when you’re driving. In fact, the radio is turned off as you are consumed with your thoughts.

This cycle began so gradually that it’s hardly noticeable. Oh sure, you’re still attending church a few times a month. But the longer the apathy goes on, the harder it is to get back into the routine you used to have. It is easier to just keep going on the path you’re on.

But it doesn’t have to be this way. You can turn it around. You CAN return to your first love. Let me show you how.


2 Biblical Steps to Return to Your First Love

John wrote in his final book to the church at Ephesus in Revelation 2:1-7 but specifically in verse 4 it mentions having left their first love. Nevertheless I have somewhat against thee, because thou hast left thy first love.

Note, though, in this passage that Jesus said that He knew their works and labour and that they couldn’t bear evil or false teachers but He did have something against them:  they had left their first love. He is aware of the good that they did and He reminds them to look at where they had come from and how far away they had fallen from it. He calls them to repentance before He removes their candlestick.


1. Repentance

Jesus said quite plainly that the way back to your first love begins with repentance. Sincere repentance from a contrite and broken spirit will generate the way back to the fold. Forgiveness is extended. Forgiveness is received. You carry on.

Verse 5 words it as Remember therefore from whence thou art fallen, and repent, and do the first works; or else I will come unto thee quickly, and will remove thy candlestick out of his place, except thou repent.

So, begin with repentance then resume your first works.


2. First Works

Start reading your Bible again. Start worshiping the Lord in prayer, both with the understanding and in the spirit. Spend time with God. Be expressive in your love for Him. If you struggle with this, you can use the ACTS Prayer Model to help you. It is a beautiful way to concentrate on Him before you make your requests known.

Check in with your study group, ask them when they are meeting again and if you could join them. Or, maybe it is time for a different group. Your church will have a roster of life groups for you to choose from. Find the one that’s right for you.


The most important thing is spending time with God.


The Lord will show you the way back. The most important thing is spending time with Him. Let Him be your center, your focus, your everything. Let your husband see that you are once again in tune with God. Your children need to see you praying for them and with them. Let everything get back on track.


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How Did You Fall Off Track?

The question is, how did it happen? How did you fall off track? What contributed to it when there was a time when you were so zealous for God and the things of God? Was it busyness? Your job, your family?  Was it a hurt you experienced from someone? Maybe you prayed for something and God didn’t answer the way you expected? Or is there another reason?


Top 3 Steps to Stay on Track

  1. Guard your private time with God.
    1. No matter how busy life gets, make and take the time to be with God. You need those quiet moments with Him. Make it quality time, focusing on Him and His Word. Bathe yourself in His presence. If you have to get up 15 minutes earlier to accomplish this, then work it in your schedule.
  2. If you’ve been hurt or offended by others, take it to the Lord.
    1. Don’t let offenses build up. The devil uses offenses to defeat Christians. Don’t give him a victory the next time someone says something that hurts you. Deal with it right away, either with the person who offended you or take it directly to the Lord. Forgive the offender and remember this, it’s a spiritual battle, not flesh and blood.
  3. Are your prayers not being answered as you expected?
    1. Talk to God about your prayers and your expectations. He’ll listen to you. Then ask Him what is best for you. Remember that His ways and thoughts are so much higher than yours. He knows the end from the beginning and has the best plan for you. Wait on Him, trust in Him, let Him give you your answer according to Heaven’s will, not your will.
    2. May I suggest that in your prayer, that you focus in His will for you from the start of your prayer? That way you will be thinking of Him and be desiring an answer that will glorify Him. It is my experience that when I changed the focus of my prayers to praying backwards and allowing God to answer them without my help, that I received the BEST answers, better than I could imagine! I want this for you too!

These three steps will lead you to other things, such as carefully selecting worship music that glorifies God and not ourselves. The focus should always be on Him. Guard your thoughts, guard your speech. Be careful what and whom you listen to and don’t allow yourself to fall for the lies of the enemy. Rise up and be strong in your faith once again.


That’s a Wrap

I really want the best for you. God wants to give you His best. You can never wander too far that you cannot return to Him. Remember what Paul said in Romans 8: 37-38, 38 For I am persuaded, that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor powers, nor things present, nor things to come, 39 Nor height, nor depth, nor any other creature, shall be able to separate us from the love of God, which is in Christ Jesus our Lord. KJV

So, is it possible for you to find your way back to your first love? Sure it is. He is waiting for you with open arms. Will you make your way back to Him today? Will you return to Him? Will you resume the works you once did?

I’d love to hear from you. Please let me know how you are doing by leaving a comment below.








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Revelation 2:4-5 ... because you have left your first love. This passage tells us that believers can and do lose their passion for Christ but more importantly that when we backslide, we can return to our first love by doing these two steps.

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6 thoughts on “2 Biblical Steps to Return to Your First Love

    1. Hi Tiffany. It’s so easy to be distracted these days, definitely a ploy of the enemy to get us away from fulfilling our destiny. Thank you for stopping by today and for your kind words. Have a blessed day, Tiffany!

  1. Great post, Cindy! Your blog is very beautiful, readable and this particular post drew me in. We need to guard jealously our relationship with God. It’s so easy to slip off track because of legitimate things like work, family. The devil is so subtle. The excuses begin to pile up and wham, we are almost living like unbelievers. Thank you for these prescriptions. I believe some of them can be used both for prevention and for cure of losing our Saviour’s love.

    1. Thank you Edith, for your lovely comment. You are right in that we need to jealously guard our relationship with our Father. The enemy is sly and will do anything to take our focus off God. (P.S. I edited your misspell for you.) Thanks for stopping by. Blessings to you!

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